GROWING YOUR PEOPLE’S SKILL



As Theodore Roosevelt, the former American President said, “The most important single ingredient in the formulae of success is knowing how to get along with people”.

Julian Craig also points out, “No matter how much work you can do, no matter how engaging your personality may be, you will not advance far in life/business or any endeavour if you cannot work through others”.  This virtue requires you to see the value in others.  One of the best stories I ever read that illustrated this point was told by a Nurse.

‘During second year of Nursing School, our Professor gave us a quiz.  I breezed through the questions until I read the last one:  What is the name of the woman who cleans the school?  Surely, this was a joke, I thought.  I had seen the cleaning woman several times, but how would I know her name?  I handed in my paper, leaving the last questions blank.  Before the class ended, one student asked if the last question count towards our grade.  “Absolutely”, the Professor said’.

“In your career, you will meet many people.  All are significant.  They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say ‘hello’.  I have never forgotten that lesson.  I also learnt her name was “DOROTHY”.

To become a people’s person, you must first and foremost:

-        Value Yourself:  Recognize your value, believe in your value and always increase your value.
-        Add Value to Others:  To add value to others, you must first value others.  A people’s person must care for others.  It’s about love.  A good leader must care for people, just as they are.  You can give without loving, but when you love, you just must give.
-        When you make contact with people, instead of focusing on yourself.  Search for ways to make people look good.
-        Let people know you need them.  Being wanted and appreciated is a major psychological booster – it does miracle for the ego/self esteem.
-        Compliment people in front of others.  Encouragement gives oxygen to the soul.  It makes people want to do more.
-        Encourage the dreams of others.   To lose a dream is a great loss.  Death is not the greatest loss in life; the greatest loss is what dies inside us when we are alive - according to Norman Cousin.
-        Always give credit to others.
-        Share a secret with someone – it help bonding and boost their self esteem.
-        Do for others what they can’t do for themselves.
-        Listen with your heart.
-        Remember people’s names always.
-        Be the first to help others.
-        Always point out people’s strengths to downplay their weaknesses.
-        Don’t be a ‘know it all’ person.
-        Be genuinely interested in other people.
-        Be humble.  This is the ability to control power, knowing who we are and not bragging about it.  Pride is evidence of low self esteem, while egoism is a manifestation of pride and insecurity.
-        Avoid gossips – Great people talk about ideas, average people talk about themselves, small people talk about others.
-        Help people win – People don’t care how much you know but how much you care.
-        Find the key to people’s heart – what matters most to them – it’s usually, family, health, faith, etc.
-        Give others reputation to uphold – treat a man as he appears to be, and you make him worse.  But treat a man as if he already were what he potentially could be and you make him what he should be.
-        Pass credit to others – when credit is being passed on to other even when the credit goes to you, it creates a biochemistry change in people and create “emotional stamp” that associates you in their mind for ever.

In concluding, nothing of significance can be achieved by an individual working alone.

Chinese Proverb:

          To build for a year         -        grow wheat
          To build for 10 years      -        grow trees
          To build for 100 years and be a people’s person – invest in people. 

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