25 ways To Win With People- How to make others feel like a Million Bucks
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Author: John C. Maxwell and Les Parrott |
The
Authors of this book have critically analysed some ways in which you can win
with people, these ways can help you become the kind of magnet person who
lights up the room when you arrive. It draws others to you like magnet-
bringing respect,achievements and success along with it.
These
25 ways are crucial for anyone wanting to win with people.
1)Start
With Your Self
If you want to win with people, you've got
to be a winner or at the very least be on your way to becoming one.
Always remember that “Winners are
Valuable”. When you embrace your personal values,when you are secured in who
you are then you have become a winner.
To become a winner, you must do the ff:
-Recognise
your values
-Accept
your values
-Increase
your values
-Believe
in your values
Always remember ; It’s not about money and possessions,neither is
it about positions and power. It's about your character and personality
Something To Aim At:
Park your ego; become selfless
Become an enabler
Become the pillar of integrity
Become the pillar of strength
Become a role model
2)
Practice The 30-second Rule
When you make contact with
people, instead of focusing on yourself, search for ways to make them look
good.
The 30-second rules means
“Within the first 30 seconds of a conversation, say something encouraging to a
person”.
Remember: All people feel better when you give them:
-Attention
Affirmation
-Appreciation
Motivation helps people who know what they should do... to do it.
“A
gossip is one who talks to you about other people, A bore is one who talks to
you about himself and a brilliant conversationalist is one who talks to you
about yourself” – WILLIAM KING
3)Let People Know You Need Them
Being wanted and appreciated is a major psychological booster
---it does miracles for the ego and self-esteem.
When the vision gets bigger than you,you really only have two
choices:give up on the vision or get help
“Good
leaders make people feel that they're at the very heart of things not at the
Periphery”-WARREN BENNIS
4)Create A Memory and Visit It Often
Remember: Life is nothing more than a series of memories. The goal
is to have as many pleasant and positive memories as possible
5)Compliment People In
Front Of Other People
Never miss an opportunity to complement good work. It makes people
want to do more and also do a better job. Reward those that excel with money
and promotions.
Remember, Encouragement is oxygen to the soul
“Admonish
thy friends in secret, praise them openly- PUBLILIUS SYRUS
6)Give Others A Reputation
to uphold
?A positive reputation to uphold is the best way to maintain one’s
performance at a high level for life. Many people are very conscious and proud
of their reputation. Their reputation becomes their legend not only at work,
but of this life
7)Say The Right Words At
The Right Time
Use words that are:
Positive,
Affirmative,Encouraging,Full of Praise and Admiration,Congratulatory,
Appreciative, Optimistic, Uplifting,Cheery, Joyful.
8)Encourage The Dream Of
Others
Most people have a dream ---so, help them attain and/or live the
dream. Become a dream enabler
9)Give Credit To Others
Even if the credit goes to you, pass it on to others. People know
who did what. You don’t have to put yourself on the pedestal all the time to
get attention and glory. The self-effacing approach is the best. Let other egos
be fed.
“Also, always remember to reward your employees while the sweat's
still on their brow”
10)Offer Your Very Best
Be a good person. Let people know that you are a good person
through your actions and behavior
Be proud of your work, Be ready to put your signature on your work
---let the world know who did what. Your work is your masterpiece, even though
your boss may get all the credit.
“I
do the very best I know how- the very best I can;and I mean to keep on doing so
until the end”
ABRAHAM LINCOLN
11)-Share a Secret With
Someone
Some good secrets bond people together. Sharing a secret with
someone is bound to boost their
self-esteem.
12)Mine The Gold Of Good
Intentions
Good intentions rally people behind you, just like vision does.
Intentions clarify the vision, but do not replace it. They speak volumes of
your willingness and determination to execute the vision.
Always remember that if you fail to believe the best in others,
you will not give the effort to “mine the gold contained in them”
“To err is human, to forgive is not company policy” UNKNOWN
13)Keep
Your Eyes Off The Mirror
13)Look
ahead. Develop a 20-20 vision. Share your vision with your team and/or
organization. Help them jump on your bandwagon.
Remember
success in life has everything to do with what you do for others.
14)Do For Others What They
Can’t Do For Themselves
Help, for God’s sake help,Not only the first to help, but an
ongoing supporter … a mentor
Help people win; help them get ahead ---even if it means passing
you over
15)Listen With Your Heart
Most people listen with their ears … or don’t listen at all
The
most important thing in communication is to hear what isn't being said.
16)Find The Keys To Their
Hearts
Everyone has a soft spot and everyone wants to belong and be
loved. So, how are you achieving this
17)Be the First to Help
After the verb “to love”, “to
help” is the most beautiful verb in the world
Most people hate stress, Stress
makes most people ill and it even kills ---the statistics are frightful
Please remove it and people
will love you, add it and people will hate
18)Add Value To People
Make them better every which way
Help them develop themselves
Give them unique skills
Give them education and training
19)Remember A Person’s
Story
By remembering a person’s story you are showing to her/him that
they matter, are important and memorable. They will then think the world of you
20)Tell A Good Story
Be a Storyteller. Say stories
that add value, have meaning, enrich people’s lives, change people’s behavior,
touch the people's heart
21)Give With No Strings
Attached
As everyone knows our world is filled with givers and takers. Most
people are takers. Don’t be like them. Be a giver. Give and it will come to you
tenfold. Just believe it.
“Life's
most persistent and urgent question is: what are you doing for others”
Martin Luther King,
JR
22)Learn your Mailman's Name
Always
remember that a person's name is one of his or her most valuable possessions
How
do you feel when someone calls yu by the wrong name
23)Point Out People’s
Strengths
By pointing out one’s strengths you are instilling confidence,
pumping up self-esteem, and soaring up the ego (in a nice way). People need you
to feel good about themselves.
24)Write notes of
Encouragement
Word
have the power to give encouragement long after the writer has forgotten them
When
a word of encouragement is written down for another person, it is often
perceived to be more genuine than when it is spoken.

25)Help People Win
Forget about approaching life as a competition where you have to
beat everyone else in order to win, once you help someone win, you gain a
friend for life.
Closing Words
Anyone
can learn to win with people, all it takes is a belief in them and a sincere
desire to help them.
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